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I need to know..

by Sanctum1972 @ 11:13 am. Filed under Misc

I frequent this nightclub at times and was served by a waitress (whom I like) and have gone there on and off..maybe once or twice a month due to driving distance currently (previously was living closer to that place) and one time, three months ago AND last Saturday night, before leaving the place back to home, I asked how much I owed her for the check (the drinks) and she said:

It’s all good.

Twice, she did this.

Does this mean anything or just plain courtesy? Everytime I go there, she’s been pretty fun and professional about it in the same time.

Can anyone shed any light on this why a waitress would say something like this?

Thanks,

-A

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10 Responses to “I need to know..”

lette :
April 6th, 2007 at 4:30 pm
go for it, she sounds nice, and you dont really know her, so you have nothing to lose if she says no! no harm in tryin!
Adam :
April 6th, 2007 at 9:01 pm
Just saw her at some art show with a guy..she did say hey and small talk, that’s all. This was the first time I saw her outside of her job.
One girl tried talking to me on my ‘dead’ right side of my ear and probably lost interest after seeing my hearing aid as I faced her…she was probably drunk, I don’t know.
But when it got more packed and louder, I had to leave…fortunately I know the local artist of that show, so he was pretty cool.
It’s one of those weird nights that bug me.
lette :
April 8th, 2007 at 3:17 am
well alls i can say is, dont be so desprate to bag a girl!! the next time ur out just relax, and simply ask her would she be interested in getting a drink wit you sometime soon, just because she was with a guy doesnt mean she was actually WITH him you know!
Adam :
April 8th, 2007 at 8:32 am
Lette,

I think it’s more on the side of communicating that leads to social isolation that can be irksome and yet, I try to follow through conversations by reading lips.
Oddly, I’m like an outsider in my own niche area of interest such as an art gallery show with contemporary works and networking to a degree that I do this to get to know the local artists.
Maybe I’m looking at it from a deaf perspective or as a single guy, or as a creative professional.
Sometimes I ask myself, “okay…which one am I right now at this minute?”.

Surely, I should be comfortable talking to hearing women…I don’t know what happened that night. Maybe it was the loud noise of chatterers and music that drove me away from the environs or it lingering possibility that it might be the drinks.
I vaguely recall being ‘empty’ inside that night…or probably a sense of boredom. It might be the art show itself that did’nt inspire me enough to chat up enough to a point to get her interested…..
Hmmmmmmmm………bad art show creating an uninspiring conversation…..could that be theoretically possible?
lette :
April 8th, 2007 at 3:04 pm
I dont see why not, Keith and i went to an art opening last week, and I even gave out about it in my blog! but like that, I couldnt hear the speakers and the artists and the art was very mediochre and like that, i felt in no mood to be there or to socialise, so it could very well be the bad uninspiring art that caused it, so if you see her in the right setting, i still say go for it! deaf or otherwise, as far as im concerned has never been a problem, unless you make it a problem! if there are questions, ask and answer them, just laugh through it, dont make it an issue and they wont, and for gods sake if you didnt get something just ask, if they dont want to understand thats their fault not yours! iv given up on what other people think, because for a long time it controled me, and thats not right, YOU CONTROL IT! and you mak it your buisness to, and take no notice of what other people think, and what Iv found is, most people know me as me, and not someone who constantly tries to be someone else, i did that for a long time, and I made false friends and even I didnt know who I was, and its not worth it. Just find out who you are, and dont give a crap how other people take it, your deafness shouldnt even enter into you and your personality, your deafness is only a tiny part of what makes you, you!.
Adam :
April 8th, 2007 at 9:13 pm
Thanks Lette..for that reminder of our own limitations that should’nt impede our progress through life. It’s possible an uninspiring art show can turn me off and could create a chain of reactions with people, that environmentally, conversations may be shortened or spoken outside of the place.
But once you’re away from the loud chatter, there’s silence…which is nice..only if you’re conversing with someone that way..
I’m starting to know which shows to go to and which to avoid…getting an idea of my niche group…sort of.
And yet..have to learn to remind people to speak up or clearly, even if I have to tell a girl of my hearing disability.
lette :
April 9th, 2007 at 6:49 am
yeah and if she has a problem with that she is not worth it, Keith makes me laugh, simpley because he doesnt take my deafness seriously or personally, I mean he knows full well that it can be serious and that I can get upset at times and he supports me greatly, but more often than not he takes the piss out of me over it, and its all in good fun, which is nice, because it remindes me, just to be me, and not to get down in the dumps over it, and if I do, he will be there to support me

so dont ever be afraid to tell anyone of ur hearing disability!
Adam :
April 9th, 2007 at 11:17 am
True
athina (User Verified) :
April 9th, 2007 at 11:22 am
Sanctum, lette’s got sound advice. Believe it for yourself and do it.

lette, your Keith’s a star!
Adam :
April 9th, 2007 at 1:03 pm
Athina,

I do what I can. Sometimes in a loud setting, telling people that I’m HoH can be tiresome whenever I go, “pardon me?”. Try doing that for almost 20 some years…then again, it’s probably a subconscious thing for me not to think of it…when I should.